something to talk about

The final exam of degree first semester is coming soon, I am totally not in a preparing mood. It was a relaxing semester which we had lots of holidays. Honestly, I did not study hard during this semester which I felt very guilty when I received the result for Communication and Culture. I did very badly for the assignments. Although we still have 70% for the final exam, I felt I did not try my best.

Someone said, it doesn’t matter how much we can get, but we need to try our best. It is pretty true. We don’t only need to try our best in studies, but for life also. Building a good relationship with friends, family members, lovers, classmates are much harder than the assignments we are doing for our studies. Sometimes, it is hard for us to control the situation, you may not do anything wrong but the relationship is spoiled. There are no such formulas that we can use for maintaining a good relationship with anybody, but if we have tried our best to treat everybody nice, at least the rate of spoiling the relationship is lower. Ha, am I talking about something that everybody has already known?

Today, I don’t have an angle for my article; the contents are quite contradictive and messy also. What I just finished talking about is trying our best for our lives, but my next point is that learn how to give up. Yes, we can’t be so greedy, sometimes, we need to give up certain things in order to maintain what we really need and value. There are opportunity costs everywhere in our lives, we don’t go for movie because of friends’ birthday party; we quite working because we want further education; we choose to break up with somebody because he is not the right one for us. So, giving up seems very useful for our lives which is the right decision when the time we need to choose. However, if it is so useful, why most of the people don’t give up. It is because people are greedy, they want everything. The demanding for human being is non-stopped. I am the greedy one also; I have never been satisfied for my life. I will never get bored on shopping, spending and partying. I always tell myself that I should do what I suppose to and spend on what I should spend. However, I still can’t keep my words. I am the lucky one, who was born in a well to do family, I am wondering whether I can survive if I have no money. Someone said people are matured earlier in a poor family, because they have more chances to experience the toughness of lives. It is true, sometimes we learn form experiences, so, I made a very big decision that I will spend 2/3 of my holiday to work in a training company to get more life experiences. And I hope it will make me matured.

Wake up, Malaysians

It is 2am in the morning; I am not sleepy at all. There are a few things bothering me for this few days. Heard about the china girl was raped and murdered a few days ago. I totally lost the secure feeling on this country. Felt so sorry for her because she just came to Malaysia for one month and was only 17 years old who just graduated from high school in china. She was from a well to do family that mother is a doctor and father is a business man from Hong Kong. What really made me angry was that policemen did not respect the body at all. She was naked and policemen did not use anything to cover her body when they were collecting her body. There were so many witnesses at that moment and policemen just carried her naked body to the car. Some newspaper took the pictures for the naked body and published them. I can’t imagine how hurtful when her parents know about that and I believe her soul did not pass away peacefully.

Basically, Malaysia is a developed country in terms of living standard. It is not an expensive country but most of the people have good quality of lives, relaxing working and studying environment. It supposes to be peaceful and safe in this tropical country. However, there is something wrong in this society. Government offices have poor working attitudes and policemen have low moral standard. There are two experiences that make me look down of Malaysian policemen. I went to replace my driving license last December, I reported that it was stolen in china, however the office typed that it was lost in subang jaya. I went to the police station at the second time to tell her that they made a mistake and because I cant understand Malay that’s why I did not tell them in the fist place. Surprisingly, they told me it was not a bit deal and they were lazy to change it. How terrible it was. And another case happened last month; we went to KL to celebrate friend’s birthday. The one who drove us were checked by the policemen and tested that she had too much alcohol. I believe to anybody who doesn’t know about law should know what a police man should do at this moment. Disappointingly, he asked money from us which was RM 350. Obviously it was too much for students, and finally they had a deal with 80 dollars. I saw people bargaining price in markets, stores or even in shopping centre. However, it was the 1st time I saw police bargaining with offence maker.

So, if the people who should maintain the good security of a country are making offence, how can a country to be peaceful and modem. I believe it is really a time for all Malaysia citizens to think about this issue and to do something about it. People are getting higher and higher education but the moral standards are dropping lower and lower. Selfishness and individualists become big barriers to maintain a well going society.

Love or sex?

One of my close friends had affair recently. I am surprised to find out that nobody around her criticized what she did except me. Someone said it always happens in this modern century which sex is only a physical need for everybody. She made a conclusion that sex is not equal to love. If her statement is true, I would like to have the answers for my two questions.

Firstly, can people simply find anyone fulfill their sexual satisfaction? I believe sex is an action between a couple who shares a common feeling –love. I agree if love exists, there is nothing to be feared. Love makes two people closer, it doesn’t matter there are any demographic differences. I always support my friends go ahead to find their love without judging outcomes too much. However, if there is no love involves, can people still simply find anyone to fulfill their sexual satisfaction? If we say yes, then are there any differences between animals and human beings. I used to see three male dogs share a female dog and nobody questions about that which is because animals are less intelligent and cooler blood.

Secondly, is it acceptable that couples have affair before marriage? It seems very obvious that the answer is wrong. But if one party can’t satisfy their partners in terms of sex, will u give a different answer for my question? There are many people have affair duel to the sexual dissatisfaction. They said sexual dissatisfaction is suffering, but is cheating more unacceptable? I don’t want to discuss it further which I would like you to share your opinions with me.

I Donated Blood Today

Today I did something first in my life, I donated blood. Until now I still can not believe that I actually did that. I believe it is an unforgettable and meaningful experience. This blood donation is organized by a Buddhist center in Old Klang Road. There were quite a number of people contributed their blood. Hopefully, what we did today can save people’s lives.

Time passes very fast, a weekend has already passed, tomorrow will be a new start. Just wish it will be a better week than before.

How Powerful a Religon Is?

I have returned to Malaysia for 2 weeks, it was a relaxing period which I was still in holiday mood. Honestly, some of the subjects are very boring; I don’t know whether the subjects make the lectures boring or the lecturers make the subject not interesting. Anyway, just felt quite suffering sitting in the classroom in the afternoon and listening to something I can not understand.

Being a free thinker, I still don’t know how powerful religion is. I had never spent time with any of the religious people in my first 20 years life. Sometimes, I just don’t understand why people believe in something which cannot be explained by science. After I came to Malaysia, religion seems so common that almost everybody is practicing. Someone said people can have no life companions but need religion. Is that true?

So, how does religion affect everybody’s life? Is it a tool for people to solve problems, be compassion, or think positively? What I am thinking about may be not deep enough that it may have some unbelievable power that I have not dreamt about. But what I concern about is whether religion will occupied other elements in people’s life, such as, love, family, wealth and so on. Does a religious person offer less emotion in a relationship? One of my friend said he does not believe love is something can be maintain forever after he became a Buddhist. He spends most of his time in doing his religious staff after working and neglects what his girl friend wants. So, will the relationship have a bright future?

A new starting

I did not write anything for my blog for a long time. I feel a bit guilty of being a journalism students because I even I cannot persist in writing for my blog. So, I hope it is a good start that I can share views of my life with everybody everyday.

I am quite happy with my degree program because of two reasons. Firstly, the timetable is very relaxing that I don’t need to rush to college in every early morning. Secondly, I have a lot of close friends are taking the same course with me. Yeah, I can stay away from lonely, it is horrible that people feel lonely in overseas.

I am a bit addicted by drinking alcohol. It is all because of my wonderful trip in my hometown shanghai. I drank almost everyday and it was so nice to drink together with friends while we were talking about our boyfriends, lives and futures. So, I am still maintaining this new habit, drink a bit before I go to bed. It is wonderful, not believe? Try it.

Do u believe in love? Don’t laugh at me if I say yes. I understand it is a material society, love seems not so crucial in most of the people’s lives (one of my friend’s theory). However, I still believe love is the only thing that cannot be count by money, isn’t it? I have seen many people consider material is the major element in maintaining their relationship. It may be the smart choice, but not the best choice. Anybody agree with me?

I watched a lot of Korean drama when I was in shanghai, although many people say that it is wasting my time, I was touched by the romance and the cordial love. I believe every girl dreams about have a wonderful loving experience, so do I. I still remember I dreamt to fall in love with Andy Law, ha ha. Don’t laugh. I hoped to spend my whole life with somebody I really love. I am proud to tell all of you, that I may found my “MR right”. (Unfortunately, he is not Andy.) Although we went out for 3 years, I just realized how much I love him a few days ago. I hope it’s not too late.

I miss my parents

Hi, I am back from holidays. It is so pitiful that I cannot update my blogger in China. There are many things to share and remember. I still clearly remember how exciting I was for preparing going back home. It is a kind of feeling that makes me not want to do anything. However, saying goodbye to my parents in the airport is much harder. I felt like a soldier who was sending to the war. Suddenly I realized that how important my parents are for me. I love them so much.